Living together or Marriage

Today in the world, after dating most of the couples, the next step is the living together with a committed relationship. Did you ever think why this happened? People apparently think compatibility cannot be tested without the actual experience of a marriage without any legal bonds. It’s like a trial run of the marriage. However this has a good side as well as bad side.

Living together has more freedom to select his or her legal life partner. Living under one roof is more far away from the dating. It will reveal more personal details about each other’s. In here you can’t hide your real situation. From this you could easily decide what the next fate of your relationship is. This will ease the life of course. So if this period went wrong, relationship would end up like “Turning off a light”. Not much hard feelings. But in a marriage you can’t just “turn off this light”. And of course, in here you have more freedom and the very less responsibilities for both of you. Specially for men. Generally, living together is not much empowering for women. It places them in a vulnerable position, emotionally and materially, and Women generally see moving in together as a step toward marriage, but men tend to regard the relationship as more of a sexual opportunity without the bonds and responsibilities of commitment.

In living together, love will not take much place like in the dating or marriage. Instead, sex and independency will take place. On dating always you have a hope for future; you have more curiosity about the next step of your relationship or what’s going on next. And also Dating will keep alive your love, and in a marriage too. When you have a bond from a marriage, you always do things to your relationship with the responsibilities. And every time love will take the place. After all you may pay more attention to care about your marriage. Coz’ you know it’s not just a living together.

And also I believe, a couple who get married after living together, is more tend to be divorced than the others. It’s because, they know how to survive after the divorce, or how to face the society after the divorce. They had good experience, about the independencies. So in one hand living together is more like to be prepared for divorce rather than the marriage.

But not being living together, could we decide our next step of a relationship? Of course you can. You have plenty of opportunities for that in the dating. You could talk anything, you could do anything and you name it. Only different is you not live under one roof with your better half. However, if you want more freedom and fewer responsibilities and without bonds, only relationship with all other benefits, answer is living together. Couples must decide what works best for them.

Do you want to fall in love with your boy-friend?

Do you like a boy? But he doesn’t care about you? Or do you love a boy? But he doesn’t love you? OK…this could happen often. So what do you do for win him? Here are some few tips to gain it.

Remember that, every boy is thinking girls as sex objects. That’s the truth. If you became a girl friend or a wife for some guy, then he may thinks about you more than sex object. It’s not wrong. And being sexy is jewel for a girl. Simply it’s an asset to a girl. And admire it.  So you must improve it doing something like, dressing well, keeping your body in good shape, avoiding chipped and chewed nails, clean and healthy hair and avoiding unhealthy appearance mainly try to keep your skin in good form. So your dream boy will think about you than before.

Try to choose proper cloths for yourself. You and your cloth must be like voice and the music in a song. It means, cloth should prominent your look. Dress like a girl. Real boys like girls; they don’t like the girls alike boys. A little bit of makeup is absolutely fine. But don’t go overboard assuming you’ll impress the guy with the fancy artwork on your face.

Don’t be a pushy girl; it’ll always be a joke. Mind your language; avoid starting or ending your sentences with cuss words. Use good words, and when you speak with him, have a little honest smile on your face. That is the best way to get a guy to notice you. If you want extra credit, make eye contact. The biggest trait that attracts guys is a girl’s femininity and sensuality. The way you walk, the way you stare at him while doing that thing with your eyes, and everything else that’s girly and feminine matters a lot to a guy.

Let him know that you are available for his happiness and sadness. Get to know about his personal life and his family matters well. So you could close to him. let your hands touch his hands occasionally, it may a good gesture, for let him know that you like him. 

The other most important thing is if you really love him; tell him how you really feel in yourself. Tell him you’re really happy with him. But are afraid of the future because you have no idea what could happen after this. If he has any sense, he’ll know it’s time for him to make some assurances to you. Don’t hide your emotions or play with words. And if he really does love you, he won’t be upset to hear that. Instead, he’ll say something that makes you feel better.

So finally this guy may truly falling love with you, but he may not be interested in marriage. Can you deal with that? If you can’t handle that, and are really serious about getting married soon, it’s probably time to ask yourself if you’re with the right guy for you.

And the same time remember that, every boy is looking for a girl who is dreaming in his mind. That dream girl’s main profile or fact may be about the body complexion, or hair color, slim, fat, it may vary. It means, each other’s desires are different. So if he is not looking for a girl like you, there is nothing you could do here. Don’t try to change yourself for him. It never gonna achieve. You just move and find someone who likes who you are now.

The way to propose a girl

Asking from a girl or propose to a girl is one of the main event of boys life. Of course, perhaps a girl might ask from a boy too. But as a percentage, those chances are very few. So confessing your love to a girl may be scary event. Actually there are not any basics here. Just follow your natural instinct. That is the best. But it may easy for you to have clues about it though.

Sometime it happens a guy hides his loving feelings for his (Girl) friend, until the point where she starts dating with a new guy. So, this may work in the movies a lot, but in real life, if you ever do something like that, you’re definitely setting yourself up for failure. If you feel love about a girl who is already a friend of yours, you have a good chance to go through this. But if you don’t know much about this girl yet, you have to do some efforts. 

If you don’t know about the girl, you have to approach her in a way or other. But remember that first impression is the most important. Is she someone you walk past occasionally? or she is around you on day to day life?Then it will be a warm smile with expressing good wishes (Ex: Good morning) at first. So this will lead to a chat in days for sure.

Keep remember that if you are having a chat, girls tend to look at your face, so don't immediately assume that she likes you. When you talk with her, look directly at her. While talking, make sure to look at her face and specifically her eyes. Pay more attention to what she is saying, so when she asks you something or stops talking, you can continue the conversation intelligently. Don't get caught staring at her body.  If she doesn't look at you or she ignores you, step back, and leave her alone for a while. Some girls don't like looking in the eyes and talking. Read her body language instead. And always remember to dress in well and clean. 

Make her feel comfortable around you, doing by good humor. Be very simple. Try to talk with some funny. Charm her and compliment her often. Let her see that you notice the little things about her that makes her pretty. If she’s wearing something nice, compliment her about it. If she looks great, tell her she looks really pretty.

If you feel she comfort with your association, Try to spend more times with her. if no one’s around, even better. In this way she will get more comfortable with you. Not only that, then she feels missing your company, when you are not around her. That’s a good sign. When you are not around her, try to call her, asking some advices and helps from her. Try to do things together. Let her know that being around her, is feels good you too. 

  
If you passed above steps and still that girl is being with you means, the girl you like would most probably really like you too. But just to make sure she likes you a lot in a more-than-just-friends call her late at night or text. You could start this by texting late in the evenings, and work your way to texts in bed within a few days.

So now give it a “go”. When the time is right, ask her for a date. Ask her to go the movies or something else you both would be interested in. You could also invite her out to restaurant for a lunch. Or after emotional conversation at a late night, you could ask for a date. Or when both of you are sitting next to each others on a bench.  Of course may be on a phone, if you a little shy guy. If she says "no", smile and respond gracefully by saying, "No problem! May be some other time." and change the conversation to something else.

Don’t try to confess your feelings for a girl until she begins to like you too. Shocking a girl with an unexpected confession of love is a worst thing you can do, because it’ll almost always end with her rejecting you. After all, confessing your love to a girl is the easy part. But if you want to avoid any kind of rejection and want to ensure that she’d say yes to you, do your way into your heart so she can actually like you and fall for you. When the moment’s right, pour your heart out to her and confess your love for her.

But you need to remember that the worst thing a girl could say is “no”. Of course, it’ll hurt. But think of it this way, by not telling a girl how you feel, you’re only making yourself feel miserable. And what would you do if another guy starts making a move on this girl you love?

Giving a space to the love.

To be having a perfect relationship with your lover, you and your lover need to understand how to give space in a relationship. Space between two lovers is important as well as love between two lovers. This two will build a perfect and meaningful relationship.

Lot of people has a belief of that lovers need to completely depend on each other to feel actual love and happiness. Of course, good relationship needs dependability, but the same time it needs some space away from each other too. Otherwise it may be felt trapped in the love. Both lovers need to do much love each other and yet grow as individuals at the same time. Fail to do so, you’d end up getting annoyed with your partner who seems to be depending on you to do everything for them. Initially every lover wants to do everything for their lover. It’s obvious. But eventually this may be annoying. So don’t go to that stage. Try to avoid dependability for each and every little thing.

Other thing is we may love to spending time with our partners, but there are always times in every relationship when we just need to give some space to help each other grow as individuals. It’s because, Sometimes too much of a good thing isn’t such a great thing. Spending all the time together can bring both of you close, but can damage your individuality. By sharing all the activities, you don’t really know what you or your partner enjoys doing. So it may like you just do everything for just stay together. It is like your trapped your own love.

Perhaps, your lover may be screaming for space in a relationship, even if they don’t say it out loud. But at some point they may say “I want some time alone”, or “I need to focus on my career”. They may say like that, it’s not because they want to leave you. But they need a freedom of being themselves. To avoid those painful wordings, always it’s better to understand the importance of the space between you and your lover.

 Knowing how to give space may be extremely difficult, especially at the beginning. But considering the stakes and what you may stand to lose, you should train yourself to become adept at this art. If this is not rightly balanced out, one person becomes uncaring or unemotional and the other person becomes needy or clingy in love.

Need clues for do conversation with your new lover?

Sometime we may need some topics to spend time with our loved one. Instead of just talking and just staring it’s better to talk something. So here are few ideas to keep your relationship alive. Conversations can be a difficult task,   when it’s a newly begun relationship. Sometimes both of you may be excited to talk to each other at the beginning. Even seasoned relationships can go through this when talking same thing over and over. And the conversation is the better way to get to know each other better.

Of course you may have many things to talk about with your newly met lover, but as both of you don’t know each other too well, so it may confused to talk about right thing.

But, there’s something you need to remember. Silence is not always a bad thing. At times, silence can be a perfect thing to help both of you fall more in love with each other. After all, silence in a conversation is the best sign to show that both of you feel really comfortable with each other and don’t need a constant barrage of words to feel at ease in each other’s company.

However, if you really need some tips to carry on your talking, use these tips spending time with your lover.It’s a good topic to talking about ambitions of both of you; it will make a chance to know about lot of things about each others. Mostly everyone has future dreams, and everybody likes to talk about them. So it will be a good start to go.  

And the next best thing is to talk about the desires of each others. And the favorites, hobbies and to do things. Find out, about them and seem genuinely interested in knowing more about it. When your lover sees that you’re interested in his passions, it’ll be more excited to spend time with you and talk to you. Then it’s good idea to ask about the day of your loved one. At the beginning of a relationship, everything’s fascinating. because both of you are trying to know more about each other’s lives. The best way to get to know them is by talking about their day, every day. When both of you know about each other’s lives, you’ll feel more connected to each other. 

People just love giving advice to other people. If you want to bond better with your new one, ask them for some help, be it about your work life or an issue that’s more personal. And it will lead to more and more conversations. And the other thing is about the friends. Ask about their friends, everybody loves to talk about friends, specially boys. Boys got good connected friendship with their friends. They always love to talk about them. And the next time you meet their friends, remember the stories and talk about it. So the friends will enjoy your company.

If you interested in movies, songs, novels and of course computer games, talk about them. Coz’ those are very interesting and they will describe your desires to them, if both love for same thing, it will delight both of you.

If both of you connect better over these conversations and they feels like you offer a lot of valuable suggestions, they’ll start to depend more on you and look up to you for advice and help in their own life.

Are you getting ready for your first date?

Are you getting ready for your first date? So…This is the very first day that you are going to give an impression about you, to lasting forever in his or her mind for life time. So go through bellow tips. It will prepare you for nice remembering first date.

  
If you are a girl or a boy, you pay much attention to your Skin at your first day. You must remember that skin is the largest organ of the human body too. It is the first thing anyone could see at first sight on a human. Whether your skin is fair or dark, it doesn’t matter. But it should be in fresh and clean. And the hair, of course. It should be cleaned too and neat. Clean hand and nails will be an added value for your appearance. And the fresh face, of course. Specially, Take care about your body odor. No one likes the stinky, use a good body fragrance for maintain the body odor.

 
The other important thing is your native assets, if you’re a guy, your body shape and the height. Dress with cloths to improvise your figure. And if you’re a girl, boys will defiantly looking at your breast, hip and the butt. So pay attention to select dress for get more attraction for those assets. But take care for not giving so sexy look on the first date. It’s because, some boys may not like in that way. 

   
And always try to have nice charm smile, it will be a jewel for your face.  And the way you talk, try to listen carefully and answer, or chat. Don’t be a chatter box. Lot of boys don’t like to have a girl who have a chatter box. If you’re a boy respect the girl as much as possible, give an attention to her desires. They admire it. And if you have personal skills let them know about it. Everybody likes to have a person with unique skills, like painting, playing music instruments, Etc…specially Girls want a guy who knows how to keep his woman happy.

If you are a boy always try to wear branded materials, watches, trousers, shirts. It’s because basically women like wealthiness. On the other hand they think, “If He could pamper himself with luxuries, he would pamper me too with luxuries”. But keep remember that dress for the occasion. And always be comfortable with your dress. It’s because, if you are uncomfortable with your dress, it will be shown up on your face for sure. 

The other important thing is the venue. And this part is directly goes to the men’s side. If you go to a restaurant with your girl, you may ask the waitress to do some value added services for your table, like more flowers, more candles. Try to show how this meeting is important to you and how you care about her happiness. And for the girls, admire whatever he did for your convenience or happiness.
 

After above all keep remember to be yourself. Don’t try being another. Good luck girls and boys.

Do you feel true love?

 

True love takes time to take well form. Other thing is love at first sight always not really true love on every occasion. In fact, love at first sight is nothing but an infatuation, sometimes. It’s just a strong romantic and sexual feeling.

Sometime true love is hard to define exactly, but there are some signs of true love in a relationship.

If you’re in kind a relationship with someone and want to know if you’re experiencing true love, check whether are there any of these signs in your relationship.

You give every good thing to the relationship in wholeheartedly, without any expectations of getting something back in return from your loved one. Just watching this special person smile out loud fills you with full of happiness, though you’re suffering or having a hard day. You may terribly hurt when your lover did wrong thing to you, but their actions never anger you. You do sacrifices for their happiness, even if they may never know it. As always try to do things and make an effort to improve the relationship, and play a conscious part in trying to please your partner and make them feel loved and special. You can’t ever hurt them. When you’re in love with someone, you can’t even imagine hurting them. Payback is a strong human instinct. So get rid of it.  You keep your promises. When you make a promise to them, no matter what, keep your promise. Even if this person will never find out if you broke their promise. When you experience true love, your moral conscience becomes very strong when. In a good relationship, it’s good to have your own space to grow as individuals. But at the same time, you’d see them as a part of your life. When you think of your future, you can’t help, but see them by your side. you must share their burden. And you do that even if you don’t really need to do so. You if they’re involving with some issue, you’re always willing to give helping hand even when you have your own difficulties to look into. You must pride of them, when they achieve something. Even you failed to achieve same thing.  

If you’re in a relationship and if you are not experiencing above true love signs, you have to more care about your relationship. Perhaps, your relationship hasn’t reached the state of emotional maturity that surpasses physical attraction or the stage of infatuation.

However, if both of you feel you are doing great in your love affair, just go with it. Don’t try to change anything about it. It’s because, selfless and unconditional love takes time to get well form. Remember, you can’t go into the next stage in love if not both of you are ready for it.

But keep remember that, although above things are there, as long as your lover and you are happy and understand each other, you people have such great love!